Sorry, I meant “I blame my self many times for being controlling”

Dear Anita,

Thanks for taking time to read my message and respond to it.

I’m still struggling every day to move on with this self blame.

My ex still texted me every day, until yesterday. He kept sending me photos of him and his family as if we were in relationship. He bought me a ticket concert for April 2024. Yesterday, I told him that his behavior made me confuse. He said that he didn’t have any intention to get back together and he just wants to be friends. What’s really hurtful was he mentioned that he doesn’t want to be in relationship with me anymore because I was controlling.

I really found it is hard for me and I self myself many times for being controlling, which a behavior that I don’t event want to do. I’ve never done that before except when I was in relationship with him.

I found it is really hurtful too when he said he would like to find someone who is better for him. This is really hurting myself with a thought of maybe I’m not good person and just full of insecurity.