Hello Brandy! Firstly thank you so much for taking the time to go through my post and respond so thoughtfully.  I see that you have commented on a few posts, giving very kind and relevant advice. You’re clearly a lovely person.

Regarding my post, your summary was bang on. I don’t know if he thought my friend would tell me…I guess so? To be honest, he is a caring guy so I think he was maybe curious as to why I was selling furniture he had put together only a few months ago and really was wondering how I was doing.

Regardless of the reasons behind this though, I have told friends to feel free to chat to him if they want to, but to be discreet when it comes to me and what is happening in my life. I’ve also politely asked them to not tell me about any more ‘back door’ interactions that occur as I feel it drags up more hurt and confusion than its worth, and hinders my ability to move forward.

My thought is, I hope he leaves me alone to heal but if there is anything worth hearing then it’ll come from him directly and not through my friends.Here’s to bettering myself, sticking to NC and continuing to (hopefully!) make good decisions 🙂

• This reply was modified 7 years ago by Shrebex.