Im sorry to hear you are going through a difficult time, I am in a similar position so I know how it feels. I am only 28 and feel like I have somehow messed up by lack of achievements and feel like it is too late. Which is crazy, Its NEVER too late. It may be scary starting over, and if you are anything like myself, its daunting not knowing what I want to do, the type of guy I want to end up with, where I want to live…basically I feel like I don’t know myself. And that’s what I am trying to do right now, rather than put pressure on myself to get a perfect job, I am trying out new things to see what I like and what I am good at – maybe you could try new things? like new classes or an activity that is out of character to see if you learn something new about yourself?

ive started to use affirmations every day, as I am naturally a negative thinker, and the root of my problem is lack of self esteem. you could try and see if they help?

I am also reading ’embracing uncertainty’ by Susan Jeffers – so far so good – and it gives me something positive to think about rather than reinforce I am a failiure…I can only speak from my own experience and say I get overwhelmed at how lost I am and don’t have any answers, but when I zoom in on myself, I am making small but progressive steps. and we all need to start somewhere.

I also really need to stress that no matter how happy people seem they always have things they are unhappy with. they may seem like they have it all sorted, sure they may be more sorted than ourselves, but not as much as we think they are…I wish you well and hope things turn around for you.