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Yes, sometimes letting people go with respect and grace is just right… and just enough. ❤️

For me, holding people and their pain in my heart with compassion and love is important. No bad feelings… but sometimes it is just safer to do it from distance. Right?

I am really sorry that I may be seen now as someone without compassion and understandning, because I have been pretty straightforward here. I am learning to find balance in healthy assertiveness. I want everyone to be fairly heard here. And I want everyone, if they are ready and open, to self-reflect. I believe this way, we really can make the best of this thread…

It is a hard conflict. It is! But it can bear fruit, as well. 😊

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Hello Alessa,

but if heart and reason conflict, how can you tell which one is right and follow it?

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Hello Brandy,

I really do hear you. Thank you for being brave and expressing your deep concerns. I’m not going to lie that I feel very similar, and it is only deepen by time as my concerns are ignored here.

I don’t want you to feel being ignored or silenced. ❤️

I am not in my best… I am still thinking how to deal with the loneliness when we are not heard. I am trying to read some buddhist texts to get grounded again.

What do you usually do when you feel upset in conflicts?

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Roberta,

thank you for your wisdom. I believe you can see that this is not easy. I wonder… how to follow Right Speech in difficult conflicts when we feel that we haven’t been heard… or how to cope with the feelings that we are overlooked in conflicts?

Do you have any wisdom to share?

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To everyone:

It is very hard to remain calm, grounded and compassionate when we feel in danger, isn’t it?

Try to think about this: Defending isn’t understanding.

It is, however, difficult. I know… and I myself am stil processing a lot. I don’t want to be active much now, as I might fail the Right Speech again. I don’t want to hurt anyone, but I am aware that we all must take responsibility for being more resilient in conflicts. Otherwise, we will keep hurting… again and again…

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Thank you, Tee! 🌸

I will think about it more deeply when I am off. I want to… it wasn’t normal. I haven’t had such a strong trigger for years. There is something still unresolved inside me.

I will look into it also for this reason – I don’t want others to be so deeply effected by my own emotions. I want to learn to take care of myself with peace and some grace… not to overreact as I did… I felt silly after that. And I could hurt others, as well…

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Sending ❤️

Bye bye for now everyone. 🤗

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It will turn out well in the end, if we allow us to give ourselves and others enough space, time, compassion and understanding. 😊

No need to prove… to fix…

Maybe just understand ourselves… maybe just asking “Why am I doing this? Why do I feel this?” is now enough for now…

Sending 🫂❤️☀️

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But of course, remember…

Respect and Compassion.

Hello,

I can see there is a strong need to unpack this conflict. I understand. It can be beneficial, it can bring more understanding…

It is good and important to self-reflect. Sometimes the deepest self-reflection happens during a tough conflict.

I feel I should stay away, because the conflict didn’t include me previously. It has effected me and I understand and accept that I might be in Anita’s bad books for expressing my difficulties. It is okay.

I am used to not being heard or understood. Overlooked in the end… After all, it was stated – someone else’s needs are more important… Am I surprised? Not really…

It was also a reason why I started this thread… what to do with the loneliness, with the ’empty space’…

I guess, as Peter and Lucidity wrote, it is about working with this empty space inside by myself alone…

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