Hi Jenn ay what a wonderful and perfect advise! 🙂 i completely agree with you! again it always starts with us … if we cant take care of ourselves and our feelings and expectations then we cant take care of any one else 🙂 Cheers!

Hello Sarah!
thats a lot of negative feelings to deal with…
there is one advantage and hope thats true she isnt living with you is that correct? I think the first thing you need to do is BREATHE 🙂 … calm down… first for you right now is to take care of your own feelings … as in you yourself … it feels like you are so exhausted and the energies have been sucked out of you before anything… its all about finding that balance first .. practice Meditation.. once you have reconnected with yourself and gained that peace inside you will be able to sort of detach yourself from all of it and try to maybe look at it from a different perspective…
Remember she is 10 so there is alot of scope of improvement and growth for the child 🙂 … i think she simply is looking for attention and ways and the more you give in she will probably use it more… yes it is really hard but you need to deal with this slowly and softly… try to divert the focus maybe dont give her too much attention, if you dont want to meet her dont , its okay and maybe by being a little firm with urself and her it will help you … negative energies are definitely hard to deal with but nothing is impossible 🙂
Always remember its the thought that counts meaning the vibes and thoughts transfer alot faster than words … so, if you are at peace and balanced ull be able to deal with her in a more calmer way … you need to forgive yourself and then forgive her… as an aunt i think she just looks to you as a friend so sometimes it gets a little too much.. maybe for a little while try not meeting her so much or attending to her as much if its really affecting you and ur personal life… detaching always helps 🙂 hate is a strong word and best to say dislike… you dont want to transfer more negative vibes … care and love go a long way … with patience am sure you will find a way… dont cut her out completely, as a niece always needs her aunt and we want to make peace not war 🙂
hope this helps! if i said too much please forgive me 🙂