Hi Che,
You’ve expressed alot of insight into the relationship throughout your post. These behaviors are indicative of what’s known as codependency…being “other” focused. It’s never healthy to be so wrapped up with another. There’s actually a 12step support movement out there known as “CODA” which stands for codependents anonymous. Glad you’ve reached out here for support.
Here’s the link f/ CODA (list local and online meetings)
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