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    Your story is more common than you know, especially in the lives and experiences of young and curious and unintentional children. You didn’t intentionally put your fingers in your brother’s mouth and besides it would not have hurt him anyway. So no harm was done other than to your sense of being a good girl. And remember no one is perfect and we’ve all done things we feel embarrassed about – all of us! Welcome to the human race and I think you’re a great person to have mainly because you are so self-aware and responsible. Both are wonderful qualities and you can be proud of yourself. Really! I’m proud of you for your courage to bring such a personal and intimate and embarrassing (to you) confession into the public. That alone is atonement enough and more than most would or could have done under the circumstances. Now if you want to get rid of the guilt you can try this which is very effective. Stop running from the thought /memory of a normal act and unintended action with your brother. When the thought arises – welcome it! Don’t run from it. Remember you did nothing intentionally wrong! Nothing! When you try to run or hide from the memory or painful/embarrassing feeling you simply drive it deeper into your subconscious.  And you let it ‘bully’ you when you least expect it. You have nothing to be afraid of! SO when the thought and discomfort arises, simply say calmly out loud or to yourself,  “I hear you – I feel you” as though addressing a friend. Do it every time it comes up and it will stop bothering you. Promise!  Get on with your wonderful life. You’re too nice and caring a person to waste let this incident ‘wound’ your upbringing. And you don’t need to talk to anyone about it. Use this as your first adult response – and not you’re last… It will be good practice in growing into the wonderful person you are. Believe me, OK?

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