Thank you🥺 it is soothing to hear this 🥺

Hi Anita,

Thanks for reading the last post.
You described it better than me…i was happy for him a long period of time that ” i can show to him he is loved and a good person”, but i ended up not saying anything when he was upset, to not upset him more 🙁

And yes, this is why i feel guilty…i don’t want him to think he doesn’t deserve love or anything like this, but i can not continue like in the past anymore, everyday discussing only negative aspects of life 🙁

He needs to stand up for himself and see his value.
Has a lot of emotional backpack from his past…but i stoped feeling like i need to help him see his value.

And i don’t know where is the blurred line of ” but that is what a friend is for…”

Hello Anita, Martha

Thanks for the replies. I have done a “detox” from internet, instagram, etc

To be honest, i am changing.
It’s hard some days, I feel guilty for putting boundaries in place, but it’s also relieving
When i feel anxiety very high, i don’t shut it down like before
I let it feel, act, even it is very uncomfortable and i just think ” this is my old people pleasing pattern. I will let it pass”

It’s not easy and feelings of guilt arrise more than before as i step in a new “way” of dealing…but i hope one day i will look back and think ” all this work was worth it!”

This forum was very relieving for me. Thank you for your stories as well…

Martha, i am sorry for yoyr situation and i hope you will be better!!!

Thanks, Anita!
No, my childhood was really good but i am anxious as a kid mostly
Now with people pleasing it just exploded 😅