Hello Seaturtle,

I hope you have been doing better since your posts. I came across them today while looking at advice as I am again going through challenging relationship issues.

I won’t add much to the amazing advice you’ve been given already, except that I’m so happy you are figuring this out at your young age. You have great emotional intelligence and insight to your trauma. I wish I had been more analytical at your age, instead I went way too much with the flow which never worked out.

I wanted to say that one of the mist important things I’ve learnt in my 6 year awakening journey/spiritual path is that it is so important to work on learning to love ourselves (flaws and all) and to improve our own self worth and boundaries (boundaries being the most challenging for me as an empath and ‘wannabe fixer’)  I did notice that the more I worked on myself, the more ‘things’ around me started to improve. You literally start changing your frequency which others will start to match.. or to not match and fall away.

You have a long life ahead of you, and you’ve started your healing journey now which is wonderful.

Our expectations of others will often let us down,  and learnt to think, ‘do I really have the tight to expect this, expect that from another human who’s been through a different journey’.. of course we have things we should and shouldn’t accept from someone.

I would try guided meditations for ‘inner child healing’ and ‘surrender’..

Feelings of ‘lack of control’ create great fear,  learning to trust the process and surrender control is very helpful.. positive affirmations ‘I am…’ are powerful but may already do those if you journal.

Meditation, yoga, energy healing, crystals, pampering can help immensely. It’s been my saviour.. the healing journey is an ongoing process, we can never reach the end of working on ourselves..

Counsellors and mental health  professionals are wonderful,  and learning tools for ourselves is the ultimate way after this.  Past trauma has a habit of popping back up when we don’t need it to.. this means it is an opportunity for further healing.

Your boyfriend sounds like a very good person, if he is your age then remember men mature emotionally at a slower rate to women usually. I feel certain he would have some healing that needs doing one day.

Anyway, I would love to hear how things are going for you both..

Tara ✨️🪽