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Okay I realize now I’m in the wrong place to get advice on how to get her back, but a few things first. I’m not depressed, I’m still living my life and hanging out with friends, I’m sad and that’s only natural. Also what’s important is I didn’t go to her and say I liked her, she came to me and admitted She liked me. Plus she was at least semi-willing to break up with this guy. And when I said I was picky I never meant by how beautiful they are(I can see how it sounds that way). I liked her not only because she is beautiful(it is a factor) but also because she’s the first that I actually connected with. So I will continue towards trying to get her back and if it doesn’t work then it doesn’t work, it’s as simple as that. But in my view doing nothing to get her back shows you really don’t care at all, and don’t really want it. I’d always look back in my life and regret not trying even if doesn’t work, and I’d prefer not to live with that kind of regret. I’ll keep you posted if anything significant happens, thank you for your advice.
SpencerParticipantWell I’m not going to give up, so the worst case scenario is that things remain the same that they are now, best case… Anything else. I am still socializing remaining with my friends and all that but I honestly don’t know another girl that I could be with, considering she was the first in years I even liked relatively. And if none of this works out I will move on and eventually find someone else, but I’m not there yet. Thank you for all of your advice.
SpencerParticipantWell no offense but I’m pretty sure it’s because he’s the one my girlfriend cheated on me with…
Also I am very thankful for all the advice your giving me, but I didn’t come here to come to peace with my emotions. I have been nice and non judging my whole life and now when it counted this is where I landed, so evidently being passive and accepting isn’t always the answer to these things. I don’t care for my current situation and I will do everything possible on my front to change things to the way I want them until whatever I do doesn’t matter, I just need to know the best way to do that. In other words no more mr nice guy about whatever happens to me, I will not just accept things the way they are.SpencerParticipantTracey-
I definitely understand that but she said she cared about both of us equally and was going to break up with him. So I feel like I should still have a chance, even though she never did break up with him.
I also feel like I could deal with any other guy, her ex who she was with on and off for two years, I like him he’s cool and I wouldn’t be bothered if they were best friends, but this guy is basically my mortal enemy and I can’t even look at him without being consumed in anger and depression.SpencerParticipantLooking back I see how it may seem quite irresponsible of her parents, and I have no idea what they were thinking but I have met them and they are very nice people, who she doesn’t seem to have any real problem with thrn. I mean I know she fights with her mom, but no more than I do myself and I mean that’s natural, we’re teenagers. She told me all that they did was make out on the trip, and for some reason I believe it(maybe because I want too). But my point she’s not exactly the poster child of bad parenting. Also not sure if this is relevant, we both really wanted to get into this one college(not sure about her anymore) and if I assume we both go I don’t want to be with her just because the other guy is gone.
SpencerParticipantSo yes they had permission to go without there parents and stay there with him, I believe his father was there. His father was deported for some reason and so had to stay in the country and so he lived in the cabin. Her sister is actually a year older and was 18, and she brought her boyfriend. And the sister I was with actually kinda invited me to go, but I could tell the guy didn’t want me there and then I just never heard back on if he was okay with me going. Trust me I never thought the whole trip was a good idea but I couldn’t stop her from going.
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