Hi,

I was recently just left by my boyfriend of 3 years (living together for 2.5 years) and he has cut all contact with me. He had an apt already lined up without me knowing and said he had lost the flame for me some time ago (several months). He walked out that night three weeks ago and hasn’t looked back. I was blindsided, but now have to think why didn’t I see/respond to the warning sings. Blind love, ignorance, fantasizing of a future we had once talked about, all those things are what caused me to stay when it was obviously over for him long ago. We moved to this place to start his (our) gym, as he is a trainer, and I financially supported us through it all, up until he left. I feel used and discarded. Through our ups and downs I had never thought of leaving or that our love wouldn’t last. It hurts more than anything I’ve experienced and I can’t offer much advice, different from what we read on here or any other helpful sites. I can just say you are not alone. The pain and confusion is ever present each day. Focusing on work and keeping healthy is hard right now, some moments I feel okay and empowered and then the next hour I want to cry a river. I know I can’t let him control my emotions and my happiness. Letting go is hard. Here’s to us finding inner peace and love within ourselves 🙂