Okay, so I am going to be nice about this. You all have to stop whining! The reason why I am saying this is, I am going through the same situation, except my partner is the one who is always distrusting of me, insecure, and always making me feel like a prisoner. This is not healthy for the person you love either, so stop making it all about you. I think if you have deep issues like abandonment, someone cheating on you, or leaving you, you need to go to counseling immediately. You are NOT ready for a relationship whatsoever. All you will do is make your lover want to leave you. I am telling you this not to be mean, but to be honest. I am going through this and I cannot stand that my partner is doing this to me – essentially bringing their baggage from the past into a new relationship. It’s not fair to me and there is no reason anyone who has these feelings should be in a relationship. Seek help for your problems first before finding it in your lover.