You were mostly attracted to him because he was emotionally unavailable to begin with. He reminded you of your parents (or father) and you longed for the acceptance you didnt get, from someone like them – detached. So if you think about it, it is unfair to complain that he is how he is; you actually chose him because of it, whether you were conscious of it or not. If he had morphed into a new person who magically gave you everything and showered you with love and affection and worshiped you, you would probably fall out of love. You are stuck in a paradox.