Hi. AS a woman it seems to me that she is not over you, just as you are not over her.
Do you know what is she angry at herself about? You have not said. Maybe therein lies the key.
Is she angry for getting divorced for you? You say her divorce was a piece of cake, but i cannot believe that any divorce can leave no regrets, no sorrow. Maybe you were too wound up in your own messy divorce and job issues to see this. Maybe this is why she could not support you enough.
Or is she angry with herself that it all went wrong, because it was magic at the time.
She needs to deal with her own anger at herself before she can let go of blaming you. It is always easier to blame someone else, than to admit ones own fault.
Maybe her wanting to Meet you again was in the hope that you would recognise her pain and then she might be able to start dealing with it.
I can tell you want to get back together. Maybe she does too, but it will not work unless she does the work on herself, that you have done on yourself. Without that you will always have things from the past thrown At you in the future.