Dear Anita,

There is no disrespect anymore after we bridged that issue so it may be the fears I brought into the relationship. I might ponder on these questions privately now but I thank you so much for giving me some relief from my anxiety for now and some questions to think about ❤️

Tammy xx

Dear Anita,

Before this relationship,  a year before this one, I was in a long term relationship where we were so co dependent on each other it wasn’t funny. I had no idea how to be by myself and we just relied on each other for happiness. I completely lost myself in that relationship and had to work hard to find myself again. I was riddled with anxiety just about life and everything seemed such a massive task while I was in that relationship. Everything was hard and I was riddled with fear and low self esteem.

This man, whom I adore and love – we met at a time when we were both very lost. And we bring out our true selves when we are around each other. I was very happy and had no anxiety for quite some time. A good six months into the relationship. There was nothing major, but then of course the doubts started. We broke up. We got back together and they were gone etc etc by now come back every now and then. So does he anxiety.

After typing and explaining this to you, maybe I am anxious about losing myself again. Maybe I am so fearful that will happen again in any relationship? I want this man in my life, so surely the anxiety has to be something to do with me if there are no major red flags?

Hi Anita,

I definitely believe in soul mates and I always thought I believed in the one until I came across some advice from several other people that there are many soul mates and ones for us and it’s all about sliding doors – which door do you want to pick.

Its just the doubt and anxiety that is troubling me. Sometimes it takes a hold of my day and I feel stuck and it’s all I can think about – am I making the right choice ? It’s just so frustrating sometimes !