Hey Anonymous person

So I kinda had that problem, too…
I had a hard time expressing my feelings and thoughts because I was afraid of being misunderstood and not liked.
So i didn’t talk much because I thought that people wouldn’t understand. But it was mainly because I was afraid of being judged. Judged by every little word that touched my lips. And I was waiting for someone to see me, someone who wouldn’t care what I said because they understood how I meant it. It took me about three years to realize that the person I was looking for I could find in most people. That people who didn’t know me didn’t hate me. that it’s not personal, that it doesn’t matter if someone doesn’t like what I say, because people disagree and it doesn’t mean I should stop talking, because I can talk as much as it pleases me and I won’t ever shut my mouth again just because people don’t like what I’m saying.
Most importantly I learned to follow my intuition. It’s seldomly wrong. Sure sometimes we should think about what we are going to say but most of the time what comes to mind is what’s most truthful at the moment.
So my advice is: try actively listening to your intuition. Try to acknowledge your feelings.

Sometimes we get confused because we don’t know how we’re supposed to feel about something. The truth is, you’re not supposed to feel anything in particular. Whatever you’re feeling at the moment is right.

If you start doing that, listening to yourself, how you feel about stuff, truly, not how you want to feel, You start being honest with yourself.

If you’re honest with yourself and your intentions are good, there’s nothing you can do or say that is wrong. Because you just do the best you can. Do you see that?

It was a life changing insight for me, that led to a complete change of perspective and an improvement in my social life that I wouldn’t trade for anything.

If you don’t know how to connect to your feelings, try meditation. Kinda worked for me.

So that was my experience and my solution in a short version.. If you want to know more just ask, hope I could help you a little 🙂