Dear imelda81:

Yes, I am going through a huge life change, it started March 2011 and still ongoing, November 2015. Many times since March 2011, and before that, I decided, many, many times that “from now on..” my life would be different, I will operate differently… I set rules how I will behave “from now on”- open a new chapter in my life, turn a new page. I thought again and again that it was going to be that easy. I even chose dates that looked right, some number arrangements. I picked rocks at the beach and wrote a date on the rock, from that date on the rock, my life would be changed, drastically. I collected many rocks that way, rocks with dates on them. Changing was not to be that easy.

As far as smoking, i wish you well. Some people stopped cold turkey. There are websites listed on this thread to help, I hope with smoking and other addictions. If some people made it, you can too. It is possible, cold turkey.

As far as other areas, I wish you well as well. I hope it will be easier and quicker for you than it has been for me.

anita

Today I am going to change. I lost my Mom this year and many other changes so quickly. I have decided my life will only change if I change my passive aggressive personality. I am going to work on this first and immediate. I want to see if it will finally bring me some friends and happiness.

I am so bad at New Years resolutions, I will always be like, I want to drink wine only on holidays or while eating out (which is rare), and not just buy it at a drug store or grocery store or whatever, exercise more, yoga more, meditate more, etc but I never can keep up. I have no idea why. Maybe it’s just not part of the daily routine so well and doing not much is just a habit. I do hate that i don’t do those things more. (I haven’t had alcohol in 12 days-being really poor helps me not even buy it).

Good luck quitting smoking! I wish I can drink a bit less because it probably is making my depression worst (I’m not an alcoholic but I could drink less and not a few glasses each week or every other). I do get paranoid sometimes like, what if I stop for a few weeks, how will my body react? Thankfully nothing happened when I do take a break. Alcoholism does run in the family. My sister has it (and is in jail right now because she murdered a husband/dad of 2 little boys while driving drunk). My one cousin had maybe still has it-he escaped to Australia to get away from everyone, and my uncle used to have it.

I guess yoga and meditation would help when I get moments of bad stress right? I wonder what is the minimal amount to start with for practicing yoga and meditation on a daily basis? (I’m 331, but I mostly want to do Yoga for my low back/hips. Yay scoliosis! ;;) I am at a healthy weight but could be more fit.

• This reply was modified 8 years, 4 months ago by Kelly.
• This reply was modified 8 years, 4 months ago by Kelly.

It’s awesome that you decided to stop smoking!!! Don’t give up!
I myself quit 80 days ago and it made me see a lot of things differently, I became a LOT more productive, communicative, happier and content.
I would, with no exaggerations, say that it was the best decision I ever made.
It might sound weird to connect all those changes with quitting smoking, of course it’s not a magic solution for all your problems but it can be the perfect start or can contribute massively to a process of “life improvement”.

I wish you all the best and that it works out for you! Stay strong 🙂