Hey ! I’m just writing back because I know how it feels to be down on yourself and it sucks. I know how you don’t want to hear any positive and that sucks to. I’m 20 years old, 5’4 and thin super thin. I’m always complimented on my looks and my figure. So honestly I really have at a young age come to the conclusion how you look isn’t everything it’s not the be all end all. Next I’ve been my whole life and still kind of obsessed with the concept of wanting someone to want me. To prove to me that I’m worthy of whatever the heck I think they can give me but through a lot of stuff I’ve gathered a lot of the opposite opinions that I’m still trying to use in application. So as you should be getting I don’t have everything figured out but I have the wisdom that I need to start applying.

As woman we are so caught up in the concept of men making us important and it’s not true. It sounds so cliche but you have yourself you need to love yourself you need to realize that either way people are people they come and go. If all your happiness relates back to a person you’ll be screwed. Of course i’m in college so I have hookups but I’ve gotten to the point where I can detach from the thought that if it doesn’t work out it makes me worthless.

I don’t want to seem like I am rambling but I want you to know that you need to love yourself. If it helps think of Kanye West lol. You can’t tell him he doesn’t deserve everything single or not. Moral of the story a man doesn’t make you beautiful as women we need to stop looking for the interest and affection of men to determine our worth. If you fall in love with yourself someone loving you, wanting you is a bonus. I know that sounds hard, and I’m definitely still trying you can see my post on here but with each guy that a situation doesn’t work out with I get thru it stronger. I’ can handle my thoughts better.

Educate yourself on where these feelings come from and you’ll see. Very seldom does a man let women affect his view on himself to THIS degree.