I agree with your idea about being a team, but only if each person is clear about what that means. The husband’s idea in his head might be his wife is going to have a great career making tons of money, and the wife may have the idea in her head she will stay home to raise their children. Each path is still being part of a team – but unless each half of the team is very clear about their roles prior to committing to the relationship, it’s not going to be good.

I think compromise is a large part of a relationship – give and take. If one person gets their way most of the time, the other person can feel taken advantage of or disrespected, and that gets old real fast.