I just have to this off my just before I loose it forever, I am 57 my brother is 45. We both live with my 82 year old mother. I used to have a job as a Rn and my own home. But I lost it when I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis in 2001. In 2013 I moved in with them. About a year after I moved in, it started. My brother has multiple mental issues, he doesn’t work, he has always been very obese. I spoke up saying he needed to help around the house like I do, even with MS. Well there it starts. The fighting and arguing. I spoke to my mother 20 pluse years ago that she needed ot get him to do things. He needs to know haw to help and take care of himself. Over and over I talked to her. “I know, but…” That was the answer I always got. Then when I got sick I spoke to her that he needs to learn certain things and to help because the way this illness goes, I won’t be able to help him when something to you. Again, the same answer. When we spoke about with him, I would bring it up, she would always defend him. Causing a huge argument, names called, silence treatment… It;s been almost three years and the stress from all of this has really taken a toll on my health. My MS before I moved in was stable, yet after I moved in it’s gotten a whole lot worse. He is so lazy, a mommies-boy, thinks only of himself. I hurt my back before Christmas and it wouldn’t occur to him to ask if he could do something for me as I sit crying in pain. He’s lazy, depressed all the time and nothing matters except him/ Please, I desperately need help in handling this before it kills me.