Hi Tamara, I feel your pain. I too have had struggles with connecting with females, and most of my friends are male. I am married and my husband is much more sociable than I. So believe me, know how you feel.

As to your question. I would begin with the females in your circle of friends. Perhaps the girlfriends or wives of guys you are friends with. If your boyfriend has friends, surely some of them have a female partner. Since you already have a connection with them through your boyfriend, this would be a great place to start.

As an introvert, I know it can be difficult to take the initiative and start the conversation. Keep in mind that people inherently like to talk about themselves, this is especially true of most females. So, when you engage in a conversation with a female, let her do the talking. This will help take the pressure off of you. Start by asking a basic question and then let her take over. Ask about her life, job, hobbies, etc. This technique is one of the central tenets of the bestselling book “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” You will make more friends, more quickly, by showing and interest in them, rather than trying to make them interested in you. Once a connection is made I am certain she will take an interest in you too!

You will have to step out of your comfort zone to do this. But, I believe you can do it and that you will be successful in connecting with a female in the near future.

Kindest Regards,

Theresa