hi…
i can feel your anger and hurt because i am also going through the same phase in my life.. the difference is that the people who hurt me and betrayed me were the ones to whom i used to give utmost importance in my life—my parents and my ex. i too, get these bouts of anger and depression for the last 3 years and it has drastically affected my professional life too…but these days my sadness has reduced a bit… i don’t know how it reduced but i am slowly and gradually returning to my optimistic self that i was before..

i would suggest that u don’t have to forgive those bullies just because people are telling u to do so… forgive them only when u feel like doing so.. there’s no point in forgiving until and unless u are fully convinced about it.. for the last 3 years, i had decided that i will never ever forgive my parents or my ex..but a few days back, i contacted my ex for a professional reason (i had purposely stopped all communications with him for the last 3 years post-breakup)..although i didn’t initiate the talk about our current personal lives, he said ‘sorry’ for ditching me and there was genuineness in his voice.. now i feel like forgiving him (but i am yet to tell him so)… so, in your case, this girl had no repentance of her misdeeds so don’t forgive her.. out of, say, 20 people that hurt u maybe only 2-3 will repent.. u may forgive them then..but believe me, not all are going to repent and take responsibility of the hurt that they caused u… forgive them only when u are convinced about it.. its really hard for us to accept the fact that most of the people who hurt us are pretty shameless and have no repentance..

now, lets see what u should be doing of that enormous anger..go through this website :
http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/six-great-ways-to-vent-your-frustrations.html
personally, i follow the no.1 and 3 method often, no.2 less often..also, i talk about it to my few of my close friends who patiently listen to me rather than just giving off unsolicited advice.-that’s no. 5…. i have started going to gym too (i had put on weight due to depression) and yes, it acts as a stress-buster.. it releases your energy in a positive way that benefits you.. i am not saying that by following these methods your anger will go away in a few days; it may take months but atleast start taking tiny steps in a positive direction…
i would suggest that spend your time more with friends and relatives who can empathize with u and where u can be your natural self and where u don’t have to fake that “i’m good” or “everything is fine”…pursue your passion or pursue things that make u feel happy..

although it may not be possible every time but try and avoid thoughts about those horrible people that destroyed your mental peace and focus on your own well-being and progress… karma is going to get them someday and if u are lucky, u will get to see that..all the best.. 🙂

• This reply was modified 10 years, 5 months ago by vitamindee.