Hi Anita

Thank you so much for taking the time to talk to me, its comforting to have you help.

After he hadn’t spoken to me for a while and I was frustrated, I asked what was on his mind and he said: “Awakening to my mortality, maybe because I’ve been able to drink again and have been doing so more than I like to admit. I’m feeling tired and perplexed about life, switched off and disengaged and trying to focus on the present moment.”

After that message I told him that I wanted him to have fun and be in the present too but that it hurt when he cut me out. In hindsight I should have zeroed in on the mortality and drinking, and left my own feelings out of it.

He lives in a flat which he had bought with his ex in a non-inspiring but lovely part of London. He suggested that maybe he should live centrally or have housemates. However, he always said he loved living there and having his own space.

The book is fiction about a talking cat – it’s doing well on Amazon.

Vivi

Hi Anita

He became suddenly distant – changed overnight. He has been very busy with work – 7 day weeks and his best friend recently married his girlfriend, who sadly is battling breast cancer. He has cited this as causing him to question his life choices. We also recently watched A Ghost Story, which was v depressing and causes you to think your life is meaningless.

I don’t like my job and looking to make a change. However, this doesn’t affect my mood – it did up to about 2 months ago and he was so supportive. But I don’t think that’s the reason.

I’m confused and I don’t understand why he wants to be a part from me. 🙁