Zach, I just read your post and see that you were given a wonderful and thoughtful response by Matt. I just decided to chime in and give you my 2 cents from a woman’s perspective.

First of all – never regret being kind and generous to the people you like, love and care about. If they abuse that, then shame on them not you. And please allow yourself time to heal enough so that you will continue to be the same giving soul to some new friend in the future.

Now as Matt has indicated, you should do some self care and focus on your personal growth. This will help you to heal and get past your present angst. It works. I know this because it’s how I have dealt with my own.

Keep reaching out and talking out your feelings in forums, with friends, family or even your therapist. Just stick with those who give you constructive feedback and not anyone who will put you down.

Learn to be quiet with yourself and how to enjoy it. I do this by walking in a nearby ravine and along the water. I marvel at nature and notice all the little things around us in this world. Meditate. Over time you will find inner peace.

You will grow emotionally. We should never stop growing. And the more you like yourself and are in a good place, the more you are likely to attract a kind and generous person – much the same as you are.

I have found this to be true for me and it is my wish for you as well.
Take care,
Vollanza