Hi Gavin,

It’s been a while since you posted your question and I’m never backward in giving an opinion…so I will.
You is what you is!
My suggestion is to accept who you are. You’re one of the gazillion people on this planet who makes it go round. We need all types.
I’d say…maybe no one does care about you as a person. That’s life. That’s their problem. Get on with being who you are…and engage with others, when and as you see fit.

Hi Diana,

I’m going out on a limb here and taking a different tack.
Step 1: Ditch the concept of self esteem. It’s a crock. “What other people think of me is none of my business”
Step 2: Separate your SELF from your PERFORMANCE
Step 3: Consider adopting the concept that… all our SELVES are equal. Each one of us fulfils an equally important role in the web of life. We are WORTH exactly the same and our worth can neither be reduced nor increased. We are all little parts of the engine. Remove one, and the engine falters.
Step 4: We can work on our performance, if we wish to…but it won’t affect our worth.

As you said, you know that you shouldn’t be comparing…and that’s true, as we always compare our insides(self) with other people’s outsides(performances). Hardly a fair comparison anyway.

To summarize….you and your boss have entirely equal SELVES…neither better or more important than the other. You may have differing performances, but that’s what makes life so rich. Could you imagine for a moment if we all performed equally….who’d win the Super Bowl????