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  • in reply to: Social Problem #66664

    Hi Gavin,

    It’s been a while since you posted your question and I’m never backward in giving an opinion…so I will.
    You is what you is!
    My suggestion is to accept who you are. You’re one of the gazillion people on this planet who makes it go round. We need all types.
    I’d say…maybe no one does care about you as a person. That’s life. That’s their problem. Get on with being who you are…and engage with others, when and as you see fit.

    in reply to: Why do anything if happiness comes from within? #66662

    I’m with Brad….and to take it a bit further….
    Happiness occurs as a by-product of working towards a goal, either your own or someone else’s.
    Happiness doesn’t necessarily come from achieving that goal…but from working towards it. The events that happen on the way can provide all sorts of new directions and opportunities…but the trick is to start moving towards a goal…and see what happens.
    From what you’ve said, you appear to be doing that. Enjoy the ride and don’t be afraid of detours!

    in reply to: Dealing with Low Self-esteem #66627

    Hi Diana,

    I’m going out on a limb here and taking a different tack.
    Step 1: Ditch the concept of self esteem. It’s a crock. “What other people think of me is none of my business”
    Step 2: Separate your SELF from your PERFORMANCE
    Step 3: Consider adopting the concept that… all our SELVES are equal. Each one of us fulfils an equally important role in the web of life. We are WORTH exactly the same and our worth can neither be reduced nor increased. We are all little parts of the engine. Remove one, and the engine falters.
    Step 4: We can work on our performance, if we wish to…but it won’t affect our worth.

    As you said, you know that you shouldn’t be comparing…and that’s true, as we always compare our insides(self) with other people’s outsides(performances). Hardly a fair comparison anyway.

    To summarize….you and your boss have entirely equal SELVES…neither better or more important than the other. You may have differing performances, but that’s what makes life so rich. Could you imagine for a moment if we all performed equally….who’d win the Super Bowl????

    in reply to: Confused and needing advice #66626

    I’m no “agony aunt”, but I have been through a similar situation…although not based on a religious issue. The first lesson I learnt was that that there is no “right” way to proceed. There are no “rules” and there is no text book. The eventual decision you make WILL be the right one. What happens after that decision is made might be a different story…and you may have to tweak or adjust or change your plans further. Life’s funny like that…and we have to just cope with what happens, when it happens. So, if it was me, I would make a decision based on how I feel NOW…not on the millions of possible future scenarios. I would definitely not base it on what others believe I should do. That would really set me up for failure. I would go forward using my best judgement and deal with the future as it unfolds. Best of luck.

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