Dear Miranda:

First I would like to say thank you, you post really opened my eyes to many things. As far as you asking where my friends are, i am about to start my second year in college and i stayed and got an apartment in my college town for the summer. So i left all of my friends in my old state, and, all of my new friends i had made at college moved home. There were some that stayed and i do hang out with them sometimes, but i work overnights so while they’re free i am usually sleeping and vice versa. However, i feel like it is kind of hard for me to make friends. I just feel like if i have to forced relationships are not genuine. Idk, i just feel like i need to have a genuine connection with someone to have a friendship. If i just talk to you while i am at work or a party, its not like they wanted to hang out with me, we just happened to be in the same place. I hate feeling like people are only talking to me because i’m there- not because they actually want to. It is probably all in my head and i can only blame myself for feeling this way, but idk why i feel this way. Maybe its my own way of stopping myself from getting hurt.  My boyfriend went home for a week so i have just been by myself. I have been hanging out with my friends when i can and enjoying my alone time although i do miss him. I feel like this break from each other is good for us. And soon i will be moving to a new apartment and school will be starting up so hopefully, we are moving in a good direction.

Dear Anita:

I honestly believe you are right. I think i am scared of living a life that my parents did. I hate having anger towards my mother but i can not help it. I do believe that she ruined my life my dads life and her own. “Ruined” seems like the wrong word but i cant help but use it. Ever since my mother starting acting the way that she did i have developed new views on many things. I view drugs differently, i view relationships differently, and she is the one to blame. I really have no hope for her. I try to text her but she never responds and that does hurt my feelings but there is nothing i can do. Everyone tells me its not her its the drug, but me and my mom have never had a good relationship even when i was younger. She was constantly punishing me (for months at a time), she was distant, she was mean and rude. My biggest fear is that i am going to end up like her (not drug wise, i believe i am smarter than that) but attitude wise. Everyone always talks about her behind her back saying how rude and nasty she is towards everyone, and i dont want my anger to be like hers, and end up like her where no one likes me or wants to talk to me. My two sisters and I all don’t talk to her, she refuses to speak to us. Every daughter always wants to have that “Mom is my bestfriend” relationship, and its something i envy.

Dear Anita:

I feel that often i will explain to him some things that i want to do during the day and he agrees that we will do them and instead, he will just go hang out with his friends or do whatever actually interests him more. For example ill say i want to go to the pool for the day, or go somewhere, or ill ask him to dye my hair and at first he will happily say yes, but in the end it never ends up happening because he makes other plans. One day he even said that the whole day was about me, and i could do whatever i wanted. But of course, whatever i wanted to do i had to do after we got through what he wanted to do (go to the gym, meet up with friends at the house) and after that it was too late to do what i actually wanted to do. That is what usually upsets and angers me the most.

Dear Pearce:

I have noticed that some of the other things that make me angry are when someone uses my stuff without asking, like a roommate. It’s not that i dont want them using my stuff its that i just wish they would ask first. I have also noticed that it sometimes i get mad when someone does something that i dont personally agree with morally. But the anger I feel when getting mad at those things isnt really as strong as the anger/hurt i feel when my boyfriend cancels plans with me. I have been starting to think that i maybe show anger and get an attitude when someone hurts my feelings, instead of being sad i get mad. It all really confusing to me although i have been trying to remain calm and not get attitudes.