Hi Alessa,

To answer your questions:
1.After breaking up, I felt some freedom and tried to heal, but things got rough, a family member died, she kept reaching out to me and I must admit that there’s a good chance that I went back in because I feel a great need of comfort, but also because I missed her.

2.The relationship was so toxic I don’t want to think about those times, it was just plain constant exhaustion for me and sadness for her, she was very emotional, perhaps couldn’t handle her emotions well (she actually mostly fixed that and this just shows how much effort she put in and I’m kind of proud) and also there was the thing about my past love so the whole thing is really foggy to see through.

3.My past “love”, was just someone I had talked to, not a relationship and it’s true it took a great deal of effort to stop doing it, but I haven’t been thinking about her for some months now and thought that now I can be all in with my girlfriend.

4.To be fair, we don’t have much shared values or hobbies, most times we meet up we don’t know what to talk about, but I don’t really know if that’s because the problems we’re facing or that just because we essentially don’t have common subjects. I regret that I feel like time with her is more like a chore, and I don’t want to feel like that.

I’m hoping this information helps!