Dear Anita,

I am not sure what will be. At the moment, I think I am trying not to get depressed and keep the rest of my life together somehow. I started reading topics about toxic relationships, I also talk to my therapist. I try not to think about him too much, and not blame myself but sometimes fail.

I hope things will get better, for everyone, as soon as possible.

Anita, thank you again for your reply. I am not sure what is happening, I was thinking about some sort of rebound(s), but they do seem to be happy. He even gave her the slippers we bought for me to wear in his appartament. I know it seems a stupid thing to think about, but to me it is like he replaced everything in a heartbeat. When not drinking, usually he is a nice guy, seems calm and friendly and understanding.. But then.. He also asked me to move in with him in our first week, but I refused, since I thought it was too soon..

Inky, thank you for your reply. Some of my friends who knew us both said something similar, but I still do miss him.

Anita, yes, this coworker is also his lover. We did not had a face to face conversation. He proposed this the day after (and said we could meet anytime if I would want beacause there were a lot of things to say) he texted me to break up but I refused, as I was really crushed. A day after, I texted him to ask him if this was still possible, but he said no because he set something in his mind. (I don’t know why and what it was). Then the Covid 19 came and this was not possible anyway.

We talked a bit via text message, he just that the therapist made him see how unsuitable we were and that she knew he would do that. He also said to me, I don’t know why, that he drank for 3 weeks after the break up (“not because he is alcoholic-I don’t think I called him that-but because it was something I would not let him do”), that he was with some 10 years older woman and than he moved and started a relationship with this coworker, that he was happy, and I should be happy for him, and not dramatic.

No, he did not know, I think, about the discussion. I am sorry if I became a part of the problem for him.. There were not concrete actions done.. I was mainly trying to offer support for them and for him too..