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November 25, 2020 at 11:52 pm #369920FrancescaParticipant
I just read your post and wanted to say I could relate to many things you mentioned. You are aware of a lot of things about yourself and you are trying to figure it all out. I overthink things a great deal and the only thing that has helped me to get out of my head and obsessing over something is to remind myself at those times to check in with how I am feeling in my body and to put my focus on sensations and trying to describe them to myself in detail….I come out of my head and start to feel calmer and balanced and then I find I can approach something using both my head and heart and not just one or the other. I find I too think of “ME ME ME” a lot, just like you do and everyone else around us does….but, doing inner work is not selfish, and when you feel balanced you will have the energy to think of others more. Just don’t beat yourself up cause that just creates a miserable ME!
Blessings!November 25, 2020 at 11:29 pm #369919FrancescaParticipant
So, I began by admitting I was binging and that it wasn’t feeling good to me physically or mentally….So, I was simply ready to face it and be honest about what I was doing and that it wasn’t making me happy. Then, I started to notice what was happening when I was being triggered to binge after dinner…So, I was simply starting with trying to be more mindful…more conscious instead of living on automatic and being completely unaware. Then, when I felt a craving, I would sit down and breathe…just make myself sit and go from my head to may heart and pay attention to my body and notice what sensations I had and what thoughts were coming to mind. I would get scared a little sometimes, which is common for me when I start to pay attention, and would tell myself…”I can allow this and it will be ok, I can do this!” So, that helps me stay with just noticing what is going on physically while breathing and riding the “waves” of craving….As I start to allow whatever is happening in the moment to happen without resisting it, I ask myself questions…ie: “how would my body feel if I gave into this craving?” My answer, from experience is, “I would feel miserable, bloated, uncomfortable and defeated mentally.” As I reflect on remembering how it really feels when I give into my cravings…the reality actually…my desire to act out diminishes and my response changes. I recognize that I am comfortably full and that I really rather feel comfortable than miserable. So, when I get to this place mentally, I just sit with the good feeling of the having ridden the temporary wave I was initially scared of and tempted to act out on, and enjoy that feeling of success. It’s basically the mindful practice RAIN just written here in how it usually plays out for me. Thanks for asking!