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  • August 9, 2013 at 2:02 pm in reply to: Why can't i change? #40078
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    William, thanks for your thoughts.

    I will check out Branden. I am searching and having a very difficult time letting go of the past (I have had 60+ years to live by not letting go). A lot to unlearn.

    Have a nice weekend,

    Ed

    August 9, 2013 at 2:00 pm in reply to: Why can't i change? #40076
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    Thanks Maitri2all for taking the time to respond.

    First of all congratulations on the sobriety!

    One nail you hit on the head is that I don’t love myself and am constantly pushing for perfection in my actions which is unattainable. I am trying to learn to lower that bar and to give myself some room to not be perfect yet still be happy with my actions. Also it is foreign to me to think in terms “If I had truly loved myself” as I never equate the word love with myself. A great story as well. Finally, do you have any sites where I can learn more about the concept of mindfulness?

    I appreciate your thoughts.

    Ed

    August 9, 2013 at 1:36 pm in reply to: Why can't i change? #40071
    Ed
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    Matt,

    Thank you for your response. I realize that I cannot change the past and a primary task for me now is to let go of the past and pay attention to the present. My focus on the past doesn’t let me appreciate the present. I have just viewed the YouTube video. It makes a lot of sense that to truly meditate that you need to focus on the present (in this case the numbers) and clear your mind of everything else. It is the clearing the mind part that I struggle with. But I will work at it.

    With thanks for your response,

    Ed

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