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  • in reply to: Passing clouds #448499
    Zenith
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    😄

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448497
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    I mustered some courage and spoke to my manager and told him that not assign us the same task as I wont get a chance to grow if i dont figure out things on own.I got so anxious to set that boundary.But I did it. He agreed with me 🙂

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448493
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    So sorry to hear that.
    I was doing ok when I spoke to you last week.

    My anxiety triggered again during the weekend. I cannot stop obsessing about how my MIL expects me to treat my co sister. I feel like running away from people. I cannot even set a emotional boundary when it comes to myself. I ruminated the same way when my neighbor(my best friend) started getting busy with other people and started ignoring me last year at the same time.

    Another thing happening at my work. A new co worker has joined our team. He is a recent graduate and more smarter, assertive than me.My manger assigned a same task to both of us. Initially it was assigned to me and then my manager asked the new co worker to help me with the task. I am pretty new to learning AI stuff. I was figuring out how to do the task he would come up with an answer and he would do the task before me. I wanna learn on my own pace and figure out how to do it. I finished the task by taking in my own way with some feedback from him. I completed the task with in the time frame.

    I went to india on a vacation he took over my task and changed it according to his way. I know he was trying to help me. The fact that I didnt like it he changed it and replaced some the stuff. I felt like my whole efforts were wasted. There are two ways of doing it and he thought his is better than mine.

    My manger has assigned another task to me last week and he now asked my co worker to help me. I dont want my efforts to get wasted. I feel like the new co worker is overstepping when it comes to my work. Should I talk to manager about this ?

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448484
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    Hey Anita, Good morning. What happened ? Did something trigger you ?

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448335
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    My manager tells me all the time that I am so quite and have to rise my voice lol. Its been three years i didnt even get promoted yet. I just screwed up a meeting last week because of my social anxiety.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448333
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    Lol. I dont have the fierceness. People can easily take advantage of me.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448331
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    haha.. will try that.
    My little one is more fierce than me. I like her that way.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448329
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    I am talking about how to respond to my mil wishes. My co sister doesnt expect anything from me its my mil who goes over broad.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448327
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    How do I do that. She tells in front of everybody.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448325
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    You right, my mil has the right to treat my co sister as she wishes.
    The problem is my mil controls me and tells me how to treat my co sister.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448322
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    The same thing happened in 2022 when we brought a home I had to do a video call and show it to her. But when they brought a house they did not even tell me until the day of house warming ceremony. Why i should I treat her with more respect if i dont get the same respect back ?

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448321
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    They were only two and sleeping on king size bed.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448320
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    Yes, It was small. we were three we were given a queen size bed. They were they were sleeping on a king size bed. When I asked my husband about it , he said its his brothers house and he cant question.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448319
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    I dont mind if my mil gives her the bigger room or special treatment. The only thing that I dont like is she expects me to do the same.

    in reply to: Passing clouds #448318
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    I am not really worried about the room lol.
    I know its not personal. But the problem is I dont get the same treatment from my co sister.
    She brought jewelry too but she didnt show it to me.I have to show her mine but my mil doesn’t say anything to my co sister.
    we were in a wedding and i sat with my mil. The moment my co sister came, she left me and sat next to her.
    My mil also expected me to wish my co sisters parents when I already did.

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