The same thing happened in 2022 when we brought a home I had to do a video call and show it to her. But when they brought a house they did not even tell me until the day of house warming ceremony. Why i should I treat her with more respect if i dont get the same respect back ?

Yes, It was small. we were three we were given a queen size bed. They were they were sleeping on a king size bed. When I asked my husband about it , he said its his brothers house and he cant question.

I am not really worried about the room lol.
I know its not personal. But the problem is I dont get the same treatment from my co sister.
She brought jewelry too but she didnt show it to me.I have to show her mine but my mil doesn’t say anything to my co sister.
we were in a wedding and i sat with my mil. The moment my co sister came, she left me and sat next to her.
My mil also expected me to wish my co sisters parents when I already did.

I dont know my husband does it. He treats his brother and Sil in the same way like my mil. He is ok with them getting all the special treatment. My little one was jealous (lol) of them getting bigger bedrooms lol. I dont feel jealous about and I have accepted it moved on.
The only time I get upset is when my mil expects me to give the special treatment to my co sister.
My co sister doesnt tell me about anything but I have to update her about all the stuff that I buy.
I wish I could take a stand for myself which I am afraid of.

Yes. My mum tells me that I take good care of her. She reciprocates the same love or more when I visit her.

LOL.
I read the thread after posting here. Just wanted to check to how I felt last year.
I am just waiting to let go off this feeling.
My mothers brain is chaotic just like mine. She overthinks everything. I want to be there for in her old age to support her emotionally.
I wish I had the strength to deal with it.

Sometimes when we miss the simplicity of childhood, it’s not just the comfort we miss—it’s how light things felt. No heavy thoughts. No pressure. Just being.
This is so true. I always feel nostalgic to how I felt. I had more unstable childhood but still never left anxious my future. I have everything right now but still feel anxious. I slept peacefully during my childhood.

I dont know Anita.
I felt the same way when I visited india last year.I wish I could visit my parents whenever I want.
The friendship break up I had with my best friend last year has really made think there is nobody close to me in US except my husband.
I have been in US for the past 9 years. I never had any best friend for the first few years and i never felt like going back to India.
In 2023 when we had a discussion with my husband i told him i dont want to go back because there would be no privacy if i live with my in laws.
May be because of anxiety , I am feeling more lonly here I guess.In india it feels less lonely as you are surrounded people.May be thats the reason why I want to go back I guess.
My parents are getting older too.My siblings wont be able to take care of them.
I hate this anxiety i wish i could live howver I want.
I am also comparing myself with my neighbor who has lot of friends.Its really bothering that I just have 2 friends that too not too close.I have my husband who is my best friend.Then i have my work colleagues whom I talk to everyday which helps me to have a good social interaction.
Even if I go back to India.I will have my set of struggles to deal with.
Living with in laws, dealing with toxic work culture, traffic, no proper parks/ infrastructure.
The only advantage is living close to family.