Tiny Wisdom: Somewhere Right Now

“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.” ~Eckhart Tolle

Somewhere right now, someone out there feels exactly like you do.

Someone is thinking that things could be better and wondering if they’ll ever arrive. Someone is remembering how things were before and wondering if they’ll ever let go. Someone is missing someone they love and wondering why they had to know loss. Someone is radiating with hope and joy and wondering if it will last.

Somewhere right now, someone is struggling in much the same way as you.

Someone is out of work and cash and wondering what might be next. Someone is waiting for an important call and wondering if it's best not to know. Someone is walking away from no good and wondering if they can go on.  Someone is walking toward something new and wondering if they should turn back.

Somewhere right now, someone is transforming in much the same way as you.

Someone is stretching into a new role and wondering if it feels right. Someone is reaching for a new goal and wondering who they can become. Someone is trying their hardest to create change and wondering if they're making strides. Someone is getting ready to take a leap and wondering if they'll feel more alive.

Despite all our differences, we all deal with the same things, in different times and different ways.

We’re all striving and struggling, learning and growing, and sometimes it can feel like we should be somewhere else–smarter, wiser, further along, or closer to having an answer.

But right now in the middle, in the messiness and uncertainty, this is where we all live.

No one has it all figured out—and maybe that’s the point. When we’re finished, we’re finished. Is that really a choice we’d make?

Somewhere right now, someone is deciding it's okay to be right where they are.

Take a deep breath, look around, and let that person be you.

Photo by robocdh

About Lori Deschene

Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha and Recreate Your Life Story, an online course that helps you let go of the past and live a life you love. Her latest bookTiny Buddha's Gratitude Journal, which includes 15 coloring pages, is now available for purchase. For daily wisdom, follow Tiny Buddha on Twitter, Facebook & Instagram..

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  • jessy

    Hi . . . I am so much in love with your blog . . Read so much. . Feeling full of life. .got answers for so many questions i had. . .i am in a relationship with a career oriented over practical guy for whom relationship comes last. . ! First his career business family my career and later our relationship. . .
    We hardly spend time together. . Its like taken each other for granted types. .before gettin into dis relationship he was my best friend . . So its like best friends in love type . . I love him like crazy . . Par he never reciprocates the same way i do. . So by reading and goin blog came to know that love can’t be forced on someone. . . If he doesnot reciprocate the way i expect it that. Should not really stop me from loving him. . . Its like unconditional love. . ! Expectations make things worse. . .plus expectations must be reasonable enough. . ! I know he doesnot feel the same way i feel about him but still i can’t stop loving him. . !

  • Somewhere, Lori is posting some Tiny Wisdom that will totally make your day. 🙂
    I needed this today, in a big way. I’ve spent the last few days down with illness (while celebrating my birthday). Because I was in a contagious state and nobody could come visit me, I spent a lot of the last few days texting and talking on the phone to those folks in my life that wanted to reach out to me.
    Sometimes I feel like I love too much, that I often care more about others than they do about me. But, being sick on my birthday was a good lesson. I was forced to sit and recognize how everyone was reaching back. When I took the time to notice it, I noticed it. 🙂

    For me, somewhere, someone loves me as much as I love them.

  • Angela

    Thank you so much for this wonderful post! Made me feel less lonely!

  • This is so beautifully written! You always phrase things so perfectly. And I definitely relate to this right now. (I’m pretty sure everyone can.) 

    <3 Madison 

  • Andrea

    Thank you for this. Very moving.

  • Mel8122

    This was outstanding! 

  • Shaunaf

    I love TinyBuddha so much but this is one of the best things I’ve ever read.  Wonderful post, thank you!!!!

  • DJ

    This is me! These ARE my inner thoughts and feelings. I’m half way around the world from my home and loved ones because I wanted to stretch, to grow, to create change. So I did. And what happens? I’m so homesick I can’t stand it!! My old life looks sooo good right now. But was it really? Not when I stop to think about it. It wasn’t bad, it just wasn’t going anywhere.

    So here I am. I am going to take your opening quote and make a special art poster to hang in my flat as a reminder. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

  • Lisalisa46

    Great POST!  And one I needed today as I just changed jobs.  It reminds me of that saying, “Wherever you go, there you are”  🙂

  • Helen

    Such a talented writer you are Lori. Your words have a magical way of coming together to create such unity for the readers of Tiny Buddha. As we all say again and again–thank you..

    If I can not find someone around me, at this moment, to acknowledge that we are struggling, learning, and growing together, I know that this community feels the same way I do.

  • Helen

    Me too! You are not alone 🙂

  • Tobias Michel

    Thank you.

  • Susan Viera

    Me 3 !

  • guest

    Wow! Really profound and beautifully written. Great work!

  • I dove head first into this world of blogging and have read so many posts, visited so many blogs that I am almost numb. In my quest, today I found you. This was the first post I read on this site and it has to be one of the most beautiful, well written posts I have ever read. Not only did it resonate with me personally at the moment but the flow of it was just beautiful. Not many blogs have hooked me in. But the way you are supporting guest posts, your “about” page— and most of all, your beautiful writing– let’s just say you gained a new fan (not that you needed it!).

  • Katsi

    Thank you! I needed to hear this!

  • Shelly

    Me 4.

    This made me cry. It’s so easy to forget that even the people that seem to have it all, still have their struggles and doubts.

  • Lori, this post is a poem, and I think about these words all the time.

    I think about how easy it might be, or difficult it might become, to find a soul mate where deep connections and understanding create the foundation for an enlightening union.

    I believe that what we put out – what we fear and desire, is what we attract. And so, if we can embrace that part of ourselves we RESPECT, we will find similar characteristics expressed within people we meet. In other words, love yourself to love another. Love yourself to coax more kindenss into your life, remembering always: we’re all pretty much alike inside. We all want to love…and BE loved.


  • Alex

    There is a saying” We do the same actions yet we expect different results”.I had a sustance abuse issue when I was younger where i ended up wasting away a good chunk of my youth Now I am 45 years old and i have so many regrets. i am in a relationship where sad as it sounds myself and my partner dont have much in common and i know the says oppisites attract but our difference are too much to overlook at this point that it has become sad. She is constantly making comments to me that are not only uncalled for but they are hurtful and as each day passes i shutdown more and more. I want to make this relationship work but the distance between us seems to be growing and I am beside myself to find a resolution. i keep my faith rhat this relationship will work out or if we are meant to part we do it as friends

  • Jennifer

    This is so beautiful. I’m bookmarking it to return to again and again.

  • Samgildea

    When I started reading this I thought I would skip because it made me feel sad and making me focus on the sadness I have been feeling the past few months but I read on (always hoping for some wise word). I am so glad because it was so beautiful and heart warming. Thank you for the gift x SamSummer

  • Claire

    This reminds me of a beautiful song…”I Can Only Be Me” by Stevie Wonder and performed so beautifully by Eva Cassidy.

    We are all imperfectly unfinished!!

  • Abhi

    Lori this was one of d best posts i ve read here well written..fills me up wit hope nd joy! Thanks!

  • Jennifer

     P.S. I recently discovered Dorothy Hunt, who has written a lot on this topic, and thought you might enjoy some of her writings. In particular the little gem on this page titled “Awakening and Embodiment”:
    She also wrote a short poem along the same lines, titled “To
    Love What Is,” which I’ve copied here:

    In this choiceless
    of life,
    there is an infinite array
    of choices.
    One alone
    brings happiness –
    to love
    what is.

    So simple, yet so profound. And SO hard to do sometimes! I for one am constantly running around — planning, regretting, being busy — doing anything to avoid being HERE. Awakening to the NOW is a daily intention I’m working on. Anyway, just thought I’d share. I love this stuff! 🙂

  • Connie

    Hi Lori,

    I hope you’re feeling better!

    What wisdom you displayed. Every single word you typed is exactly what I’m feeling and exactly what I think about on an almost daily basis. You are such a blessing and I don’t feel alone in this journey called life 🙂

  • Happy belated birthday Jenna! I hope you’re feeling better today. 

    I could relate to what you wrote about loving too much. How wonderful you learned that lesson on your birthday. =)

  • You are most welcome Angela! And I second what Helen wrote…we are never alone. =)

  • I’m glad you enjoyed this Shelly. Happy Tuesday. =)

  • Beautifully written Irv! I think at our core, that’s our strongest need: to love, feel connected, and be loved in return.

  • Thanks Madison! I’m glad you enjoyed it. =)

  • Thank you Connie! I’m feeling a lot better. I have a long of my strength back, and I’m starting to feel like myself again. I’m glad you enjoyed this post. I know what it’s like to feel alone, so it means the world to me that I can alleviate that feeling for others!

  • You’re most welcome Abhi =)

  • I love that..perfectly unfinished! I’ve never actually heard that song before. I have to check it out!

  • You’re most welcome =)

  • Thank you for sharing that poem Jennifer! I really enjoyed it as well. I’ve definitely gotten swept away in busyness before, so I read (and write) a lot about seeping into the moment and appreciating it for what it is.

  • I’m glad you enjoy Tiny Buddha Jessy! I’m sorry to hear about the challenges in your relationship. I’m sure it must be tough feeling like you’re not a priority to him. It sounds like you’ve formed some strong insights about what you should do next. I know it won’t be easy, since you have strong feelings for him, but you deserve to have those reciprocated! 

  • You’re most welcome!

  • Thank you so much!

  • You’re most welcome!

  • You’re welcome DJ! I remember when I did a semester abroad, I felt incredibly homesick during the first two weeks. Just knowing I couldn’t simply visit my friends and family made me feel incredibly anxious. I was even considering going home, but then the student advisor told me to give it two weeks–and by then, I felt immersed in the adventure. I’m so glad I pushed through those feelings, because it ended up being one of the most fulfilling experiences of my life. I’m sure this will be amazing journey for you as well!

  • Thanks Lisa. I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  • Thanks so much Helen. That’s why I love being part of the community here…I love being able to shared what I’ve learned, learn from other people, and connect with the knowledge that we are all so similar.

  • You’re welcome. =)

  • Thanks so much!

  • Thanks so much for the kind words. And welcome to Tiny Buddha. =)

  • You’re most welcome!

  • I believe they say that’s the definition of insanity–doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. (By that definition, I have many times proven I’m insane!) 

    I’m so sorry to hear about the trouble in your relationship. I’m curious: from what you’ve written, I get the sense you feel unfulfilled in it, both because you and your partner aren’t really compatible, and because she doesn’t treat you with the respect you deserve. With that in mind, what compels you to have faith it will work out? Or perhaps better phrased: Why do you think you want it to work out?

  • Laura

    Lori, nice post – I think we each have to experience the same lessons on the planet.

    Reminds me  – – . . .“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.” ― Christian Moulin Rouge

  • Thanks Laura! I love that quote. And that movie. =)

  • Rose

    Lori as usual you know just what to say, or write, at just the right moment.  This past year has been a roller coaster ride for me and just when I think I am getting a handle on the situation, yet another one arises.  It seems as though it is never ending. When I feel overwhelmed or like I just don’t know how to proceed or deal, I tell myself there is someone out there dealing with a lot worse.  And I am sure they are managing somehow and somehow, someway so will I.  Thank you for reminding us that we are not alone in our everyday struggles and loses and that we will find our way and we will be ok.   

  • I think this is my favorite TB post ever, and I’ve been hanging around here for a couple of years now. Wow. This is exactly what I needed to hear, and I’m going to print this out and carry it with me. Thank you 🙂

  • You’re most welcome. =)

  • Moon Child

    Great great article, “Somewhere Right Now”. This really hit home for me and at a time I really needed to hear it.  You would think that being a “grown up” that we would realize this, but we sure don’t…We forget how to be empathetic to ourselves and it’s ok to be grateful and thankful and “happy” where we are. ~Thanks so much for the reminder article.

  • Gorgeous, Lori!

    This post articulates a lot of what I’ve been thinking lately. I feel as if I’m constantly striving for more, trying to grow, learn and be better. Yet, paradoxically, I know that true happiness comes only from accepting what is and living in the present moment.

    It’s a total conundrum! When I try to accept what is, I feel restless. When I strive for more, I fail to appreciate what I’ve got and end up feeling disappointed.

    It’s always reassuring to know that we’re not alone.

  • Paule

    I also needed to read this post. I was in the middle of supporting my husband and his family, many miles from home, as they dealt with the sudden death of my lovely father in law of just 6 months, when I got a call to say my elderly mother had been taken into hospital following a stroke.  I packed and boarded the plane home, my mind in a spin wondering how I was going to find the strength to cope. Sitting in the airport I read this post and suddenly I felt so much less alone – connected with so many people all over the world going through much the same thing. My mother is out of danger and still in hospotal but I was able to fly back to attend my father in law’s funeral and support my husband and his family. I’m about to fly back to where my mother lives to be with her and take with me the thought that somewhere someone else is walking the same path as I am now, and I am not alone. Thank you for giving me the strength I so desperately need right now.

  • I know what you mean Rebecca! I deal with the same challenges at times. I suspect we all do. It comforts me to know we all deal with the same things–and that I don’t have to have it all figured out. I just need to take it one moment at a time.

  • You’re most welcome Paule. I’m so sorry for you and your husband’s loss. I hope your mother continues to get better. You are not alone. I’m sending lots of love and good thoughts your way!

  • talia

    Thank you for writing this, Lori. I just re-read it 3 times because it’s so beautiful and it made me cry. Thank you for eloquently describing the feelings that I couldn’t identify. It’s very comforting to know that I’m not alone because it feels like I am.

  • You’re most welcome Talia. You are not alone!

  • zimt-peppermint

    Thank you 🙂

  • You’re welcome. =)

  • sp

    I’m going through such a tough times now . This one made my day.

  • I’m glad it helped sp. Sending good thoughts your way…