Hi mapnerd,

This is what a wise minister said to my DH long ago when he had dated an alcoholic: “Sometimes people need little hurts”. When you leave and your (now ex) BF is confronted that it was HIM and the DRINKING and NOT you… Of course he will drink more that day, but ONE DAY all of those little hurts will add up, and THEN he will begin to think about fixing the problem.

It’s BECAUSE you love him that you will break up with him. The how doesn’t matter. Just leave him. Today.

Best,

Inky