Dear idonno:

You are more aware of how your childhood affected you and what you brought into this marriage. But you are not aware, are you, of what she brought into the marriage? You are learning through therapy about your “baggage”- but the marriage troubles are a result of her baggage as well. Your work is on your 50%, isn’t it?

This therapy is excellent for you as an individual and as a father… but no progress in the marriage can take place without her putting in her 50%, examining her own participation, contribution in it… is what I am thinking.

anita