Dear geekgrrl70:

My thoughts:

* Stop fighting. If you can’t or won’t stop fighting, separate. It is not good for the two children to observe the two of you fighting and of course, it is not good for you or your partner.

* Both partners need to want (more) children before deciding to bring more to the household, so if it is a deal breaker for her, well, the deal will need to be broken.

* If you can stop fighting, and it is okay with her to not have more children, then what about if you do spend time outside away from your partner, maybe with the children…You can even travel without your partner, while she stays home…?

* About your self improvement work, what I am currently working on in the area of self improvement is patience and acceptance- patience with your partner and acceptance, radical acceptance of her ways as you described them, can be part of your self improvement…?

anita