Dear Ravi:

When someone bumps into you and does not apologize on campus, say something: “Hey, you just bumped into me!” Say something. Using profanities would be one extreme (being aggressive, abusive) and saying nothing would be the other extreme (being passive, submissive, cowardly). Find the Middle Way (this is a Buddhist principle, the Middle Way). Be assertive, protest fairly.

What you are saying is that you want to refuse to accept the .. gift of someone being abusive to you, in other words, when the guy bumps into you on campus and does not apologize, you want to feel nothing, is that it? Or to feel grateful for that gift?

Let me know if you can do that, Ravi. I am not going to try such a method. That will spoil any joy I get from receiving a ..pleasant gift, as a gift is not a gift unless it is something nice, kind and loving.

anita