Home→Forums→Relationships→Should I Be doing this or not – Dunno how to let go→Reply To: Should I Be doing this or not – Dunno how to let go
I dunno where to start its gonna be too long but please bear with me.. As a baby i was never raised by my mother and mostly grew up with my grandma and grandpa.. I was diagnosed with this rare condition of shigellosis when i was 1 and a half i guess and underwent major abdominal surgery twice at taht age and had to be in post operative recovery till i was 3 since my grandpa was a doctor he took care of me and my medicinal expenses.. I was told that my father dint even visit me during that operation by my mom’s sisters. So.. I grew up looking up to my grandpa as my living hero because he is, he saved my life what else do i need. and my grandma she would bring the whole world down to me if i ask so… she loved me that much cuz i was the first grand daughter in the family. My mum was their first kid and she had 2 sisters and a brother.. So that was my home. I never did knew my father well till i was 3 years of age. The first time i was ripped off from my grandparents and taken to my father’s hometown cuz basically didn’t recognize my parents after a while and my father started panicking i would forget them once an for all.. that’s how good my grandparents took care of me. I was sent to school and i remember my mother was very abusive in my kinder garden she would hurt me physically to vent out all the anger she had on my father and her in laws. i used to get terrified around her. If i don’t write neatly or be playful damn im done. My skin would be torn off by her pinching and slapping.. I don’t remember my father hurting me at this age. I would always score first in class else i would be terrified by the abuse.. Meeting my grandparents was my only fun. My father was a air force personnel and he took voluntary retirement just to attend to his family since we were all falling apart and was jobless for quite sometime .. so we were not very rich or anything. But i always used to understand them and was not very demanding for anything i was always silent playing with my doll and stuff. (or so far is what i remember) Meanwhile my mom has to go back to my grandparents house for delivering my younger brother and my father don’t want to send me with her (i dunno if it is because i love them more or he really did care about my studies when i was 6)and he took care of me for around 6 months i guess. He is generally very short tempered man but until this point he was very good to me i don’t remember him abusing me until this point. But his own siblings gets terrified about him he is such short tempered..he abuses my mum a lot as i said earlier.. And so my mum came back with my little brother and he was center of all attention in my father side of the family and i was literally non existent.. very simple things which never happened to me was given to him especially by my father.. During my birthdays it was considered to be lavish to buy a cake they wont.. but for my brother all birthdays were filled with cake neighbors big dinners etc., etc., the fool i was i dint even know that partiality then. But i was still the princess for my mum’s parents.. i would travel alone to go to their town once the exams are over at that age, my grandpa would come and pick me in the bus station that was like disneyland for me.. Meanwhile one day i swallowed my teeth in sleep. 🙁 it happens right u dunno what happened even before u realize teeth is down the throat.. Innocently i went and said this to my mum and dad.. I dunno what rage my father was in .. He took a cane and blasted me out flesh and blood… closing the room door not even allowing anyone inside the room that’s the first time i saw that monster.. and felt so bad and ashamed to face my cousins who are my age he was like this super strict. He wont send me anywhere.. neither anyone should should come to our home.. No playing outside is allowed
he thought he is bringing in discipline in my life and literally killed my childhood. At this time he stopped sending me to my grandparents house for all holidays.. i have to excel in academics too.. else i will be caned for that also.. even simple fights between my mum and dad would result in me getting hurted physically either by mum or dad.(contd..)