Dear geekgrrl70:

You asked: “At what point do you decide that radical acceptance isn’t the answer because where you are headed just isn’t where you want to go?” My answer is Anytime. You wrote such positive things about your partner that I thought it might be worthwhile for you to (continue to) practice radical acceptance of her. It seemed to me that her lack of desire to travel, for example, was minor in comparison to her being loving and decent.

In your last post you wrote something more important, in my view, about her that is a problem and that is her lack of affection for you on an ongoing basis. That is a problem because her not being into traveling, well you can travel alone. But if you travel alone, the payoff is that when you come home from a travel, you come home to an affectionate partner-

If that is not the case, then it is more serious, the problem in the relationship, that is.

anita