Dear jsd32:

You wrote in your original post: “No matter how careful I am with my words, I still find he gets incredibly overwhelmed and insulted by any slight problem I mention.” And here you wrote: “I have to dance around his feelings and be excessively kind…”

I don’t like it. I am familiar with that kind of interaction, walking on egg shells and the mere memory of it brings me anxiety and distress. This is definitely not healthy, how can it possibly be healthy?

I also don’t like it that he doesn’t answer your texts and storming out and you chasing him. Nope, don’t like it at all.

I will be back to the computer in a couple-three hours and then will re-read your posts and anything you will add next, if you’d like, so to get a better understanding..

Oh, and your anxiety and you not connecting it to anything in your childhood… nothing there? No memory of anxiety as a child? any memory of feeling unsafe, or rejected as a child? Or angry…?

anita