Hi Anita

Thanks so much for replying, you have no idea how long I’ve been yearning to be heard. Thanks for the tips, but unfortunately I have said it, I have confronted them professionally about their mistakes that were blamed at me, not one apology, not anything from them, instead, they continue to twist the subject till all voices are silenced, and its tiring and exhausting to talk to someone who knows they messed things up but won’t admit, even at times they keep repeating that they’ve told me and stuff when they clearly haven’t, and I end up childishly repeating it back to them.

The thing about the tasks that they’re paid to do, I’ve recently started telling them that I am not familiar with the task because I am not in a position to do it, they are, I have never been into any training to undergo tasks such as that. But they still “casually” hand it to me. I have tried unprofessionally ignoring it completely because they won’t acknowledge my words. It went a little like; They would tell me to do something, but that day I am thoroughly, overly, busy. I have a list of things I have to catch up on and I can predict it’ll only be done till we close or even tomorrow morning. So I honestly tell them that “I’m sorry. But my plate is really full today, I’m unable to do the favor you ask me to.”

Their response; “No, don’t worry, you just call them after this thing you’re writing.”
Me; “No, I told you I don’t have time, my client is in a rush and I’ve got a deadline.”
Them; “You just do it after you’re done writing yeah.” They walk off.

And so, as childish as this may sound, I ignored him after my attempts and in the end they notice that I haven’t done the thing they “ordered” me to, they show an attitude and an expression on their face as if it’s my fault they won’t listen.

I am planning to leave my work-field, not now, but I am planning first before I do anything. I kind of feel like I’m weak for planning to quit, like I can’t handle anything, but I’m tired of not being heard of, I’m tired of not getting justice in the office even by my own boss. He asked me about this thing that was messed up, it clearly had the name of the person who did it, we sign them, and it was not my signature, nor my name, but he blamed me, I politely told him I am not the one who made the mistake and he still blamed me like I’ve never said anything. This was when I was surprised, shocked, and lost a little respect for him. Because he was a good boss, he was the one who interviewed me, he was a cool guy, but as I started working, as he knew me more, he felt comfortable scolding me, either if he’s in a bad mood, or he’s fast too name a person when it comes to mistakes in the office.

It seems like as assertive as I can get, people here just don’t seem to care.