Hi Nicholemarie,
I REALLY like Anita’s advice! This way YOU are inviting THEM, and YOU set the unspoken boundaries!!
Some thoughts… I think your DH likes the other couples because they remind him of his care free single days. But what was funny to do at age 20 can be downright creepy at 30 (like your story above). Also, you are now seen as the “Downer” or the chick that sucks the air out of the room. Now, of course you are right, I’m not saying that!! But often when we are the only ones who do the right thing, that’s how the Group Think will portray us.
In addition to Anita’s advice is this: You must proactively invite NEW people into the mix!! Every month invite a new couple into your home!! This way, before you know it, DH and you will be surrounded by dozens and dozens of normal, good people! A few bad apples then won’t matter, much less contribute to the dent in your marriage.
Good Luck!!
Inky
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