Dear eris:

I encounter the same attitude my whole life and it handicapped my efforts to heal big time. Mothers do get almost unconditional protection by society, including psychotherapists. A mother has to do the most horrendous acts to be considered a bad mother, nothing short of blood and gore will do, it seems, to convince people that cutting contact with one’s mother is okay to do.

It is very unfortunate. I hardly ever…. did I ever come across someone like you who expresses what you did the way you did.

Please do open up when you are ready, if you choose to. And when you do, tell it like it is. I refrain from telling my story of my mother/ myself because of this societal unconditional protection of motherhood.

anita