Hi Spiritflower,
Look at this in a different way ~ you had a friendship that lasted through several stages of your life! That is reason to congratulate yourself! Now, the bestie has become different ~ in reality you haven’t been as close for at least half the friendship. What has happened is she has taken over the role of “The Best Friend” in your Personal Mythology. For me, I have one friend who openly tells everyone I’m her best friend, but I call her “My Best Bud” because calling her my best friend sounds like a lie. All because of my Real/”real” best friend ~ from first grade ~ who I talk to on the phone ~ twice a year. That one is The Best Friend in my Personal Mythology.
Look at who your ACTIVE best friend is now. Pay attention to that one. In fact, most times it’s healthier to pay attention to those who pay attention to you. With Priority going to the ones who treat you best.
Good Luck,
Inky
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