Dear JVR:

In my efforts to understand you and this relationship, I have two questions for you:

1) You wrote about this relationship with an “energy vampire…prone to rages, complaints, and self-pity. she exhausted the people around her and played games of control, superiority, and victim hood”- you called that relationship “the most beautiful, meaningful and joyous relationship, I have ever had with anyone.”

What was the beauty in this relationship?

What was the meaning in this relationship to you?

What was the joy you experienced?

2) You wrote about her marriage: “her partner was…more abusive and more dangerous(hurts her every single day through words and actions, but not physical abuse). He loved her so much…”

Can you define the kind of Love her partner had for her while abusing, hurting her ever single day?

anita