Dear Andy:

When you feel hurt by someone, it is natural to feel angry at the same person, wanting to hurt back. Of course, what we feel, we should not follow automatically with action, but all feelings have valid messages behind them, all make good sense and should be listened to.

As to your question: it is bad to not give up on people who repeatedly hurt you. Giving up on those is the way you protect yourself from future hurt. And protecting yourself is the loving thing for you to do for yourself.

anita