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Evan
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Hi Foolinlove,

You ask “How to forgive?”, and if I may offer a few thoughts….

Forgiveness is accepting what is, and allowing it to be. Your mind will still want to control the situation somehow, but you will see through the tricky mind, and a clearer reflection of what happened can be seen (taking off the rose coloured glasses). For many years I forgave and could not understand why I still felt bad. Forgiveness is an important part of the journey, but a few things to keep in mind as you do this..

1) You do not have to agree with what is done, or said. But you must accept it.
2) Once you forgive the main focal point of the issue, other things arise to forgive.
3) The more you accept what actually is (not what you hoped or feared), a glimpse into the reality of the situation comes clearer.
4) By constantly forgiving, and having clarity for yourself, begin to reflect internally and ask yourself questions, not as a point of judgement within yourself, but for an understanding of how to love yourself now and ongoing.
5) The answers that arise from here, are the ones that lead to self love, and break the patterns of self harm. Self harm here means returning to an unhealthy relationship, where loyalty is in question. I am assuming it is, based on your previous posts.

Pain may still exist after this, but as you can only control yourself, and your reaction to a situation, you will soon see what you are willing to allow in your life/relationships, and what you will not.

Take care

Evan