Dear eris:

Enduring distress without reacting to it destructively is a crucial aspect of mental health. It is part of emotional regulation skills or ability. And the part that beats us up will take any excuse to do so, including: I did well today, so why didn’t I do well yesterday? It is like the real person who criticized us, in reality internalized in our brain, is saying: Aha, you &$%%b- what was your excuse yesterday? Anyway, that is my projection of that Superego/ internalized parent.

It takes identifying that voice again and again, and over time silencing it.

You are a private person, is my feel. A proud person, not sharing your latest challenge/ “bad news”- I feel honored that you chose to correspond with me as I feel you choose who you interact with carefully.

anita