Dear kiolabear:

Regarding you being scared that you were capable of behaving that way, being out of control: unfortunately every person is capable of that and every person has behaved in regretful ways, out of control, unreasonably. Sometimes a person does that and there is no way back, as in dying as a result or in committing a crime leading to life incarceration… now these are scary. So we do our best to pay attention to what we are doing and prevent destructive actions.

And regarding making mistakes, again, everyone does, oh, I wish there was a way to no longer make mistakes!

So we have our reason, logic and we have our heart, emotions and of course the two are not always of one mind. Wisdom is about combining the two: the logic and the emotion, figuring out what our emotions mean and how to proceed. You missing your boyfriend means you are lonely and scared, maybe, and not that it is good for you to be with him. So if you figure this, you can get comfort maybe from a friend, so to calm your fear and ease up your loneliness while not getting back with him.

I am so glad your friend said you are welcome to stay for as long as you need! Take advantage of this generous offer and be wise.

How are you doing today? Please do post again.

anita