Hi learningeveryday,

It’s only natural to want to gain approval in the eyes of someone you admire.

And it’s *because* they are so awesome that their words carried more weight.

Then, when you later respectfully disagree, you are putting yourself in a weird way “higher” than them… But that cannot be, can it? says the voice in your head.

Also, there is the shame of being seen as so two dimensional that someone else thinks they have “your number”.

Lastly, there is the small part of you that agrees with them, otherwise it wouldn’t bother you so much. (If they called you a striped giraffe, you wouldn’t take it personally, you’d think they were nuts!)

If you really care what they think, is it possible to write them your family’s REAL story? Say you’re writing an article for publication, and want them to edit it, and that there’s MORE! Then you’re setting the record straight AND showing them that you are multi dimensional.

Best,

Inky

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